The invisible space that fuels growth

Space under the surface.

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I feel inspired around her,” or “I get amazing insights in that person’s seminars,” or even, “I don’t know what you said, but it shifted everything”? These moments are not just about what’s said or done—they’re about the space someone creates for you to grow.

Magda Cragg, speaking of her husband, the poet Lew Welch, described it perfectly: “He made space around you so you could grow.” In those words, Magda captured something subtle yet profound—an invisible quality that fosters transformation in others.

This kind of space is often hard to define. It’s not about advice, instruction, or information. It’s about the energy, presence, and openness that allow others to access their own potential. When someone holds this kind of space, it creates a fertile environment for insights, shifts, and breakthroughs to emerge.

While it’s challenging to see or measure this kind of space, the absence of it is starkly noticeable. We’ve all felt the weight of environments or relationships where growth feels stifled—where there’s judgment, control, or a lack of freedom. In those moments, we instinctively crave the openness that allows us to breathe, explore, and expand.

Creating space for others isn’t about doing more—it’s about being more. It’s about being present, attentive, and unattached to outcomes, so that those around us can connect with their own wisdom and truth. This unseen yet powerful space is what nurtures growth, creativity, and transformation.

So, the next time you’re with someone, consider: Are you holding space for their growth, or are you filling it with your own agendas and expectations? Sometimes the greatest gift we can give is simply the space for another person to unfold.

For more about this “third space” and how we can create it for others (and ourselves!) …. check out Getting Messy: A Guide to Taking Risks and Opening the Imagination for Teachers, Trainers, Coaches and Mentors