Embracing the process: The journey of creating ‘Getting Messy’

A book I’ve been working on for nearly ten years was supposed to be published last February. Everything was set—until the university slated to publish it dropped their program at the last minute due to internal politics. Just like that, I was back at square one, wondering if my book would ever find a home.

This project has consumed so many years of my life. I’ve nurtured, polished, and prayed over it more times than I can count. Countless times, I’ve asked Spirit for permission to let it go:

Dear God/Spirit, if this book isn’t going anywhere, let me release it now before I spend even more time. I need to cut my losses and move on.

But no matter how much I try, the book doesn’t want to be dropped.

Lessons in the Process

Yesterday, I had a powerful insight about process. The final stages of this book’s creation involved working closely with a graphic designer who has become a great friend. Over the past year and a half, we’ve collaborated to bring my vision for the book’s design to life. Her quirky, unique style perfectly captures the spirit of the book.

I absolutely love what she’s created. The process of working with her has been fun, comforting, and deeply rewarding. Her support has lightened my load in immeasurable ways. She genuinely believes in this book, even though she has nothing personal to gain from its success.

When her mother fell ill and passed away, I suggested finding someone else to finish the remaining work. But she wouldn’t hear of it. “This book is my baby too,” she said.

The Beauty of Good Soil

Looking at it from the perspective of process, maybe it doesn’t matter what ultimately happens with this book. The experience of creating it has been profoundly nurturing and fulfilling. Together, my designer and I have created “good soil,” rich with creativity, collaboration, and care. And if that’s what this journey was about, maybe that’s enough.

A Happy Ending

Postscript: The book did find its home and was published! If you’re curious, you can check it out here: Getting Messy: A Guide to Creativity and Imagination for Teachers, Trainers, and Coaches.